Tuesday, October 2, 2007

Discussing Sex with your children

Recently, I was shocked when I heard in a Presidential debate that several to most of the candidates had no problem with 2nd graders being read a book about 2 princes getting married. My first reaction was I don't want to discuss sex with a 2nd grader much less homosexuality. So, that thought leads me to the question, Have you discussed sex with your children and how did you have "the talk"? Also, what do you think is the best age for the discussion?


Ang said...

My eldest is 6 (1st grade this year.) I definitely do NOT think she should be taught this next year.

We've had a little bit of a talk with her about sex before, because other kids have mentioned it to her and she has asked what it was. We kept it pretty generic for now. That sex is something a mommy & daddy do when they are married because they love each other and that we'll talk to her about it more when she is older. She seemed satisfied with that explanation.

Unfortunately, kids hear about sex so much earlier now than when we were kids. I don't want to go into too much detail, but I do want her to hear it from me, not her classmates. And definitely NOT from someone at her school whose values do not agree with what we would be teaching her.

My daughter is currently attending a Christian school, so I have a bit more control over what morals she is taught there. However, we have three kids and I don't know that we'll be able to afford all three to go. There is legislation coming up that will affect these things (such as the reading of the book you mentioned) in CA public schools right now. I'm making sure my voice is heard. I want a say in what my children learn about sex and when they learn it.

(Sorry for ranting, this is a HOT button for me right now)

Coach Kimberly said...


Don't apologize for ranting. I couldn't agree with you more. You gave a perfect explanation to your daughter. I still remember when my daughter came home from 1st grade and told me she knew what sex was. After I stopped hyperventiling I asked her what she meant. She said, "It is when Mommy and Daddies kiss." Good enough for 1st grade and I breathed a sigh of relief. I have always thought that parents not schools should teach sex education. Also, you were very correct about wanting your children to hear it from you and not their friends. I think there is an overall push in society to make our children grow up too fast and steal their innocence. We have to be viligant. It is sad that society no longer agrees that some things are not for children to know. Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous said...

This is where being raised in a rural/farm comminities helps ALOT! Hahahahaha~ My kids already get the jsut of it because of the animals...they know how they are born....etc. A few years back my son asked " well mom don't people just mate too?" hahahaha I said well pretty much and that was the end of the discussion! A Big Whew~ hahahaha

I hope you all can see the humor in this post! Of course it is a little different the older they get and there is more to explain, but it is wonderful when a simple answer satisfies for awhile!

On christianbook.com they have some wonderful books that are "age appropriate" for children and they give biblical pricipals for sex. The book I found for 8-10 year olds I am going to finally share with my son soon...he is 11. The one for 11-14 year olds I probably will not discuss with him till at least 14....the best thing to do is arm yourself with information and scripture so that when they ask you have a biblical answer~

That is my two cents anyway! HOpe all is well for everyone!


Coach Kimberly said...


You are so right about living on a farm and how kids learn alot earlier. I also agree about the sex education books should be looked at for your particular child. The ones I have I think should be given at older ages as well. Thanks for sharing.